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Originally Posted by Beachlover527
Thank you for replying!
I've heard that a lot. One thing is I'm afraid to be confident. I DON'T want to put on an act anymore. I have done that and it's past the point of me being exhausted from trying to pretend I'm outgoing and such. I feel like I'm lying to people if I pretend to be outgoing. I am SO done with pretending to be someone I'm not or putting on a mask or a front. It's tiring and annoying to me now.
I hope some day I will learn to not take people's **** and to stand up for myself. As for right now, I feel like I'm being mean if I do or creating a ruckus.
Yeah I try not to stalk their social media. Lucky that you guys didn't have it. It's scary. Also the thought of accidentally clicking on something (happened to me before) and getting caught (this didn't happen yet). I just see what they're doing, analyze them, figure out their insecurities, find out their personality.
I have a hard time being just friends with guys? Why? I don't f****** know... I really don't. If they seem gay, I don't have a problem talking to them or chatting with them. But I mostly just feel comfortable and hanging out with girls. The guy needs to act like he's just a friend in order for me not to be anxious and worry about him.
And for careers? It's just so hard because I like different things and risky things. Singing acting psychology communications business maybe? I just want to do something that makes me happy and will fulfill me. I really don't know at all  I'm scared to get a job because I am so afraid of working. I am afraid of having a boss.
And ah. It's hard having so many worries. I just want to be worry-free. |
No problem! I see a lot of myself in you.
I don't mean to pretend to be an extravert when you're an introvert -- I could never do that. I just mean back straight, shoulders back, chin up, eyes forward -- posture does wonders. I'm tellin' you.
I am
still learning not to take people's ****. It's a process. But I've gotten much better at saying "No." And before you answer someone, you should stop and think if they know what they're asking from you oversteps your own boundaries. If they do, aren't they being mean? And if they don't know, maybe you should make your boundaries clearer at a time when confrontation isn't likely.
Part of the excitement of meeting new people and dating is learning about someone else and sharing things and discovering what you have in common and making connections with each other
together. It can feel like Christmas -- even better than it, really -- when you clique with someone. Social media can kill that, IMO. Correspondence is great, however.
I'm the opposite of most girls -- for the longest time, I had more male friends than female friends. Less drama, more fun. And I still find it harder to make female friends.
Have you ever had a job anywhere? Having a boss isn't so bad. I worked at a cafe during my summers and winters home from college, and it gradually helped me come out of my shell. You had to be social with the customers. I hate schmoozing and I hate small talk, but I like fun banter. It was fun. Maybe you should make getting a part-time job next summer one of your goals.
And like I said, you don't have to choose a career just yet. Take classes in everything you're interested in. Narrow it down. Go from there. You have to take it one step at a time.