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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
Best defence against emotions is your brain.
Works for me anyway 
First line of defence is logic.
Remind yourself that there never was a possibility of future good memories...
Firstly he's a student, secondly he's getting married. The future would be much like what's behind the door you just closed, only magnified due to willingly prolonging your own agony.
Second line of defence, positive affirmations.
Remind yourself you're doing the right thing, that putting your job on the line for a student who isn't even available was never a viable option and then pat yourself on the back for doing the smart thing.
Third line of defence is reality checking.
Remind yourself that it was a one sided crush, that in reality you didn't lose anything besides a fantasy.
Rinse and repeat these 3 exercises and keep yourself as distracted as possible and you should be on your road to recovering from your crush.
Hope I was of some help and not just stating the obvious 
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Thank you. This is very helpful. I need to remind myself that the only thing I lost was a few additional office visits from him which always leaves me wanting more and intensifies the crush. Actually when I told him that I won't be able to converse any more he was like " It's fine. you are making a big deal out of it". Obviously.. he doesn't know that I have a crush. The weird thing is he used to kinda flirt with me (talk about my hair and the fact that I am fit) which is totally not typical for a straight man. That's what threw me for a loop.
Well.. Now it's healing time. I have to be strong and not initiate any contact with him. I am distracting myself as much a possible but it's hard not to think about him when I am alone though.
May be I will send him an email few months from now just to offer academic help if he needs it. That's also something I may or may not do. Thanks again