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Originally Posted by Ms.Beeblebrox
Thank you everyone who replied!
Reading your responses helped a lot. I don't mind the diagnosis, but it does feel unfair sometimes that I was made to take meds for 3 years and think that I was "ill" when others who are way worse than I ever was are walking around firmly believing that they are just fine, and that the angry fits, inappropriate behavior etc. they exhibit are other people's fault.
I work with a person who I believe is suffering from low grade paranoid delusions and he is turning the lives of our coworkers and my own into a nightmare because of the constant insecurity with which he is coping by scheming and undermining others to make his over shortcoming look better in comparison. I really feel that he is suffering daily and would benefit a lot from at least therapy, but I know that he would never accept it.
What do I do, other than update my resume? That is the question.
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Ooh, he could be a narcissist. I work with one of those. She drove me crazy. Still does sometimes. I get paranoid, and it literally made me sick. It was awful. The girl flips out -- literally -- disrupts the whole work environment sometimes. Never written up for it. She just started taking an antidepressant this year (she's been in therapy for 7 or 8 years now, almost as long as she's been working at my job). I cope with her behavior way better and have a way better relationship with my boss now than I did a few years ago. A few years ago it was an awful mess.
Just the other day she made a mistake and she got mad at our boss for calling her out on it. When she vented to me and I told her (nicely) to just learn from it and move on she replied, "There's nothing to learn from!" Yeah, okay.
It's really hard to help people like that, because in their eyes, they are almost never, ever wrong. It's always everyone else who's wrong. They're ridiculous. I'm sorry if I'm offending anyone here, but they make me so angry. It's really hard to help people like that. They're incredibly insecure and you feel bad, but sometimes it's really hard to feel bad when they undermine you (or stab you in the back).
Can you talk to your boss about his behavior? It sounds like he's creating a toxic environment for everyone.
You have to stay one step ahead of people like that so that they can't undermine you or go behind your back, or if they do go behind your back, your *** is covered. Covering your *** is the name of the game.