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Originally Posted by BrandNew
a) He admits to still judging whether a girl is attractive but as far as sexual thoughts and looking at them sexually, that's a no.
People have tried to reverse the issue on me and ask if i do it. No, i really don't. I'm not blind i can judge whether another man (or woman for that matter) is good looking/attractive, it's an automatic thing my brain seems to do. I can even judge whether they have an attractive body/good muscles etc but never have i looked at a guy and thought "wow he's sexy as hell" or thought what he'd look like naked/in bed. There's nothing sexual about it, purely a judgement on attractiveness.
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These two points are exactly the same no?
You both can and have visually appreciated another person's appearance, without the whole sexual componant.
If that's accurate then yes, you are doing the very same thing as your bf, annnnd I now suddenly have no clue as to how to respond as that caught me off guard...
Me? I like beautiful things, and some people are just so damn beautiful. So because I'm visually appreciative of beauty (I like art too), I take no issue with my bf being appreciative too. I can't expect him to suddenly go blind because he's with me, and it would be unreasonable for him to expect that of me.
Idk, you're in a tricky situation, you pretended to ooze confidence, and now your bf has discovered he actually has a very insecure GF. So he's not the best candidate to assist you with this. He probably feels he was misled and that's why he got annoyed with you...
Hopefully the Healthy Self-Esteem section will be helpful to you.
Best of luck & Take care.
