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Originally Posted by allforgood
Dear povman,
I have a few suggestions. I have been around the block a few times...
Your first priority should be to become independent from your parents and feel good about yourself. I think you realize this.
After that you will be ready for a relationship.
You are fortunate that you have not gotten involved with anybody yet because unhealthy people attract and get involved with unhealthy people. When that happens, your problems get worse!
Establish a healthy relationship with yourself.
You will then be ready to form a healthy relationship with a healthy person.
Keep your priorities in order and be open to meeting new people.
I suggest staying away from porn. It can lead to sexual dysfunction.
Learn how to love yourself and others.
Everything will fall into place 
I wish You the Best! |
Thanks allforgood. Yes in many ways I know the truth of all of what you say. I've been slowly working on these issues over the years. It's just sad to realize how long the trudge will be, these aren't issues you solve in a session or two of therapy, they are life long exercises in emotional reconstruction. And yes I agree finding a relationship now would not be the best, I have said exactly the same thing myself and for the same reason. Damaged people attract others of their kind and make for unhealthy relationships. Still, it's very difficult not being able to satisfy the longing
