I don't think you were rude at all, either. I think that's just how CBT therapists are with the action and solution stuff. I mean, it's helpful but it is not always the best kind of therapy for everyone. I had a CBT therapist too long ago and I just hated it. I quit after a few months and took a break for a year, then found a therapist who mostly just *listened* and helped me process things -- I absolutely loved her and did well with that style. So maybe that is more the type of therapy that would help you. Even with the hard stuff, they are there to help you through it and it gets processed. I hope you are able to find a new T that will have a more helpful style for your specific needs. Hugs!