As I have said, all of this has been very new to me. Learning my triggers has been a lesson in humility.

My husband when he is critical or angry or just mean (90% of the time)

When I have too much going on all at once, (e.g. cooking and people trying to talk to me while I am in the "zone" or when my husband is asking me a bunch of questions or getting upset while I am trying to cook supper)

When my house is messy

When I can't get time to myself to veg-out. My husband works 24 hours at a time, roughly every other day so I am typically afforded that time, but he also gets 5 days off once a month. It's during those periods that I am unable to get time to myself.

When my husband yells in front of our son, even if it isn't at our son. My blinders go up and I just think about how to remove him from the situation.

When people are just mean.

When I see the women my husband has been talking to in a manner that is not at all acceptable for a married man. I get minor panic attacks whenever I have to go to the grocery store now. He doesn't know I know. I guess being paranoid has its benefits.

When I have a lot of work to do at work and I have a deadline I must meet.

That's what I have determined thus far.