I don't think what you said in frustration was rude at all, StillSearching. You were simply expressing how you feel about how things are going. . . not real well from the sounds of things I do believe that CBT is a very goal/action orientated type of therapy, and for some people it works really well; for others, not so well. I definitely get what you're saying about perhaps avoiding a more psychodynamic approach as you're a bit reluctant to "dig deeper into the past stuff", but one thing I've learned about being in therapy, a good, skilled therapist never forces the issue by brutally ripping the bandage off the wound(s). The best therapist I've ever had has allowed me to come to the point that "I" was ready to talk about the painful things at my own pace. I'm not saying that a good therapist doesn't probe a bit now and then to see where we are in the whole scheme of things, but he/she knows that demanding a client "open up the can of worms" before he/she is ready is counterproductive. We reach that point or we don't. It doesn't matter because all work in therapy is work and valuable.

You mentioned in another post that you really just want someone to talk to, to hear you--perhaps your frustration comes from a feeling that your current therapist really isn't listening, he's jumping too quickly to developing a plan and giving you advice (ie. think positively). Some therapists have a hard time just giving their client the space and time to let their story unfold naturally. If you're not at the point that you ready to make an action plan, then his efforts to force that on you can be frustrating and unproductive. I know that I left a therapist who I liked personally (he had a great sense of humor and a calm demeanor), but he just couldn't not try to come up with an action plan at every appointment. I wasn't ready for that yet; I just wanted someone to hear me at a deep level. His need to plan and push for action frustrated me and made me question whether or not I was actually equipped to do therapy "normally". Everyone is an individual and moves at a different pace. A good therapist recognizes that and adjusts the pace to meet each clients need. Some can and some can't. I sure hope you don't give up on finding what you need in therapy.