To StbGuy: Loving yourself is simply respecting yourself, valuing yourself and taking care of yourself.

To povman and StbGuy: Work out regularly and get yourselves in prime physical condition.
Eat healthy and stay committed to taking care of your body.
All areas of your life will improve if you do this.
It is hard work at first and requires self discipline, but it becomes easier and enjoyable after a few months.
Be committed and disciplined.
You will never change unless you are committed to doing what it takes to change.
Enjoy the journey. Do not think that a particular outcome will make you happy.
You need to learn how to be at peace with yourself and others now.
It's all about accepting reality and changing what you can