The word absolute is was jumped out at me. My therapist yesterday was trying to get me to see that maybe my choices are not ideal but I do have choices. She said we can easily get stuck on thinking of ideal choices. A choice that would lead to the best possible outcome based on some ideal I have. I have some choices to make and they are causing conflict because they have opposing values in them. She wanted me to be aware that I have these conflicting values but I have to choose one or the other anyway. That kind of helped me as I have been stuck in knowing what the right choice is. I didn't know I had different values battling it out.