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Originally Posted by stopdog
I do think there is a difference in contamination and pissing someone off or being misunderstood or having different agendas or divisive and so forth. Someone doing something at me with good intention does not necessarily mean I won't get pissed off for any number of reasons that would be valid for me and the validity of my response is not offset by the good intention. But I don't feel contaminated when I am pissed off. I might choose to engage less with someone who I found highly annoying or who I found off-putting, but again - not contaminated by them.
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Thats a good point - just that healthy people have good boundaries, and hopefully our ts' arent so permeable and they practice good self-care, altho that would be after the fact. But the boundary, during the - i want to say confrontation - thats why i cant see my family right now; they DID always stomp all over my boundaries. Until i can hold that psychological boundary myself, it needs to be a physical one. Maybe that is part of what the t hour is about - we practice containment. Anyway, good thread. I like Ferenczi too - i know he did some bad stuff? But there is some really good stuff too.