Oh, that's tricky. It's so hard to feel like you're stuck in the middle when a loved one is going through a divorce. And I'm sorry to hear it's having such a negative affect on your parents. It's so difficult to watch adult kids go through the pain of a divorce. But, as far as some ideas on how to help your family member, I thought there were some good thoughts on how to be there for your loved ones while still setting boundaries in an article I found called "When Your Kids Divorce" on the Focus on the Family website. I'm not sure if it would be worth looking up or not, but seems like it could apply to not just parents, but the friends and extended family in this situation. So, just FYI. Hope it helps!