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Originally Posted by Hellion
Actually I do not think all females wish to get with someone who would want to have kids some day. I am female and do not want kids since I don't think i could really take care of them since I have enough difficulties functioning as is...also not sure what all the hype about having a normal life is all about, what is so awesome about that.....do the same thing everyone else does just to say 'yay life is normal'. I mean you're focusing a lot on the mainstream of what is 'normal' and seems like you think everyone strives towards that and thus you have no chance of a social life or marrige since you don't fit that mold...but not sure that is so true, since there are plenty of more open minded sort of people, that don't really find the whole prospect of a 'normal' life all that appealing anyways. Also plenty of people have 'normal' lives but are unhappy due to what is missing from it or its all plesantries on the surface but underneath things are much more dysfunctional than they'd seem at first glance.
Also though even if you did have kids there is no 100% guarantee they'd have aspergers...but that sort of thing is up to you not all people want to raise kids for all kinds of reasons.
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You are the first lady I've met that has that opinion
. Thing is, I'm NOT searching for a "normal" life. I AM highly unconventional, since I was born, hell, even before that (I was conceived IVF). I am a maverick when it comes to my work, totally not thinking like anyone else, and I never used to be scared of taking any risks if it means I get the result I wanted to obtain. Everyone used to say I was mad or I'll fail and then I prove them wrong. How many times must I still prove them wrong?
It's lately. Everywhere I go, I've got to fit in. I want love in my life - well, it comes with a list of requirements I have to fulfil. I'm just so sick of it all.
Right now in my life - and I am dead serious when I say this - if I could, and had no binding contracts to tie my *** to anything, I would leave everything and go and live on a deserted beach somewhere with not 1 CENT on my name. You have no idea how much I hate this conventional wisdom thinking - eat, sleep, job, wife, house, reproduce, die. I truly hate it because I believe humans can do so much more than that. But, everything has that condition attached, even love.
But, nobody wants to be alone. I have so much love in me that I want to give to someone special, but I've got to provide it in a conventional package for other people to "understand". I've got to "speak" their "language" to get anything right, even if I just want something to eat.
You're ASD, you know what I mean when I say these things, and I know how you feel. We just don't fit, and we don't want to "fit", because "fitting" is not the answer for us.