Everyone has a basic temperament. Some temperaments naturally elicit positive care-giving responses and others do not. I believe the natural response for a therapist is going to be for the parent (the party in control) to alter their behavior patterns for their child. There is no excuse or reason for an adult to ever neglect a child regardless of how the child naturally acts. A child cannot take care of itself, and it has a basic need for unconditional love.

Oh, and there is no such thing as a terrible infant. They aren’t doing anything wrong. They are just unique.