Ive watced the nanny programs a few time. She helps families with out of control children you are doing absolutely the right thing by reaching out for help. When she is being naughy give her a warning if you dont start behaving your going to time out. When she carries on dont speak to her while the timeout is going on, you can sit with her there but dont speak or give her any attention. After time out is over tell her the reason why you put her in time out and tell her you love her.
Do you read her srories at night? Does she get enough sleep and does she have a healthy diet?
Please keep posting. We are here for you.
I would also fo activities with her like drawing or painting . Its a way of her expressing what shes feeling and what shes been through
Hang in there!
Good luck