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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
Certainly. I agree with that.
But at the same time, "rejecting" isn't a natural temperament. It's a learned temperament. It goes against the very nature of humans to reject others, unless they have already learned that others are unsafe.
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I think the term "rejecting" is misleading since it implies choice. Newborns are all born with a temperment and they are all different though like Leah says, they all fall within a spectrum of what's "normal". It's not as common, but there are babies that aren't warm and cuddly by nature, preferring a ride in a car or stroller to being held. They aren't rejecting anyone, it's just the way they are hard wired. The problem comes when an insecure or unstable parent takes it personally and responds negatively to the baby. It will go in circles with baby and parent responding to each other.