I want to clear up a little that my T did not intentionally harm me by not reply to the message I sent.

We discussed it in session and they stated their reasons, which were valid and about their own boundaries at that time. As a professional working in the field I completely understood that reasoning.

On the other hand the feelings it raised in me were triggering of my own past. T stated it wasn't only about the message but other stuff as well. My family pattern is to not talk about your anger or frustration towards and with another person, so this situation with T provided the opportunity to move outside of that family pattern. And it was hard.

My T is wonderful and very intuned with me and this is not something I am use to at all. T was also very comfortable and quick to apologise for her non reply.

I don't believe it was an intentional situation, I think it was unintentional and not used to manipulate the situation. The outcome of the situation however brought up huge opportunities for T and I to work through, and probably will continue to for a little while.

Thank you for your responses they have been enlightening! It's sad that some Ts out there intentionally harm their clients, that is never ok.