She says her mother physically abused her for years along with other horrors I've read during last several months. I can't equate years of physical abuse and the other events she's recounted with mistakes.

One thing to forgive, but another to pursue a relationship with people who have a significant track record of abuse and neglect, isn't it?

If one wants a relationship more than anything, one can certainly choose to keep it- clearly it's a powerful motivator to maintain connection to our parents, very powerful in a primal way, but to push the significant, ugly, unresolved parts under the rug to do it... is that pure and clean forgiveness, is that healthy, healing?