I'm really irritated at the moment and just need to vent. And have an affirmation that I'm right in being mad and the way I feel. Last night me and my bf of almost six years got into fight. Everything was fine and we were having a good time until he did something that I have told him not to do around me and it pisses me off and its gonna start a fight. I won't say what he did. But on many occasion s I have made it clear its one thing I ask him not to do. But he did it....then expected me not to get mad

He then wants to get mad at me saying its his life he can do whatever he wants without consequence. But in fact if the tables were turned and its something he asks me not to do and I were to do it anyways....all hell breaks loose...he denies it saying he doesn't care about anything I do ....which is complete bs....he didn't like the fact I call Jim out on being the biggest indecisive hypocrite I have ever met in my life. Here's just one example...hell tell to leave him alone or give him space and do my own thing if he has something he needs to do....to which I don't care and will make plans to stuff I need to get done. He'll say " I need to do ....all day and I can't have u distract me.....OK no problem I'm going to do ....... And every time and hour maybe more maybe less will go by and he's calling or coming over to see what I'm doing and I say " thought u said u were gonna do .....all day.
BT then he gets mad at me asking if its a problem he's around. Wtf ur the one saying u had to get stuff done then u come crawling back and its somehow my fault when u don't get things done?????
Another example he's in a band that plays shows I go with him to all of them to which hell tell me go somewhere and talk to someone so I can step up or something like that but when I do he freaks out to where Am who am o talking to what am I doing....but if I just stay around him and follow him all night I get complained at for that as well.....wtf do u want from me
It makes no sense he's just a huge hypocrite and somehow I'm never doing the right thing even though I do what he asks and when I ask wtf he wants from he ignores me pretending not to hear me or hearbthe pronlems I have with him. He's way of dealing with problems and issues is by ignoring hem and they'll go away when I say no they need a solution or stuff gonna keep going. But then he wants to blame me do anything and everything that goes wrong or not his way, and wonders why I don't he think he loves me or cares.....its so much back and forth I have no idea what he wants from me and he makes me out to be the b**** and I'm just mean and mad all the time for no reason. And he just does dumb stuff when were out that makes me angry and then makes me just like the mean b**** to his friends. When the fact is I was fine and having a great time until he does something stupid and just thinks everything will be fine and no consequences.... He says I'm just trying to control his whole life and I don't care about him.....I care too much is the real problem....I want a life with him a long one so why would I be OK with things he does that would threaten that. But I'm just the controlling girlfriend whose ruined his life....which I ask him all the time " if im such a few terrible gf and trying to control ur life and u blame me for everything why then do u even date me at all", he never replies. I don't know what to think or do im either damned if I do damned if I dont. And this is coming from a 30 year old guy not some child even though that's what I feel like I'm dealing with most of the time. I don't know what to think or do anymore with him...I don't know why I stay with other than the fact I love him and want to be with him....its not always bad but when stuff like this continually happens I question our entire relationship. And wonder if I'm wasting my time