this reply is not to Jon personally. i'm just adding my piece to the thread. i do not in any way mean to spark more controversy here or fuel anyone's fires. i'm not "siding" with anyone, either way. i just want to say that psychcentral has always been a safe place for me. there has only been one time in the past that i didn't feel safe, and that issue was resolved right away- and i quickly regained my security.

i sat down to read this thread, which has snowballed and snowballed since i posted on it asking everyone what was wrong, and i was triggered. it isn't the specific things people are saying. it's the familiar feeling that this has.

i don't mean to be accusatory, so please nobody get offended. i just want to say that this thread is not a safe place for some of us. i am sitting on my bed crying like a child right now, and i feel like i am back in my parent's home helplessly listening to them arguing back and forth. i know that nobody is responsible for my feelings but me, but i am asking you all to please have some compassion. my experiences in childhood were hellish, and i'm doing my best to work through them. but this is hurting me today.

of course i will take responsibility for myeslf and not finish reading the thread, but there is a good chance that i'm not the only one who started reading it thinking it was safe, and finished reading it feeling very triggered and scared. it makes me feel like psychcentral is chaotic and full of contention, and i don't want to have it be that way at all

DEX: thank you for your posts. they helped me feel somewhat more safe.

please, you guys, continue the debate in your pms or not all.

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-