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Old Sep 13, 2014, 12:56 PM
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I just get very anxious when I try to be someone I'm not. It just gives me anxiety that I need to keep being confident.
I just really don't know why I feel like I am deeply truly not that type of person. And I feel like I HAVEEE to stay true to me. And that true person isn't confident allll the time?

I just really want to be with someone. There's this guy I met on twitter. He lives in the same city as me and he's 2 years younger. We have mutual friends. We only talked through text message and twitter and insta. Last night I had a dream about meeting him and we kissed and hugged and looked at each other. It was so adorable. This is my 2nd time he's been in my dream. And the encounters are positive and good. I'm afraid of seeing him in real life bc I'm afraid he might be like **** and insensitive in real life and that he wouldn't like me or my appearance. We've face timed before.
I think he doesn't think about me as much as I think about him. I like him but we've never met.

Maybe I'll get a job soon! Your story me a little more confidence and influenced me to get a job. Sounds like fun.

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No problem! I see a lot of myself in you.


I don't mean to pretend to be an extravert when you're an introvert -- I could never do that. I just mean back straight, shoulders back, chin up, eyes forward -- posture does wonders. I'm tellin' you.


I am still learning not to take people's ****. It's a process. But I've gotten much better at saying "No." And before you answer someone, you should stop and think if they know what they're asking from you oversteps your own boundaries. If they do, aren't they being mean? And if they don't know, maybe you should make your boundaries clearer at a time when confrontation isn't likely.


Part of the excitement of meeting new people and dating is learning about someone else and sharing things and discovering what you have in common and making connections with each other together. It can feel like Christmas -- even better than it, really -- when you clique with someone. Social media can kill that, IMO. Correspondence is great, however.


I'm the opposite of most girls -- for the longest time, I had more male friends than female friends. Less drama, more fun. And I still find it harder to make female friends.


Have you ever had a job anywhere? Having a boss isn't so bad. I worked at a cafe during my summers and winters home from college, and it gradually helped me come out of my shell. You had to be social with the customers. I hate schmoozing and I hate small talk, but I like fun banter. It was fun. Maybe you should make getting a part-time job next summer one of your goals.


And like I said, you don't have to choose a career just yet. Take classes in everything you're interested in. Narrow it down. Go from there. You have to take it one step at a time.