No problem! I see a lot of myself in you.


I don't mean to pretend to be an extravert when you're an introvert -- I could never do that. I just mean back straight, shoulders back, chin up, eyes forward -- posture does wonders. I'm tellin' you.


I am still learning not to take people's ****. It's a process. But I've gotten much better at saying "No." And before you answer someone, you should stop and think if they know what they're asking from you oversteps your own boundaries. If they do, aren't they being mean? And if they don't know, maybe you should make your boundaries clearer at a time when confrontation isn't likely.


Part of the excitement of meeting new people and dating is learning about someone else and sharing things and discovering what you have in common and making connections with each other together. It can feel like Christmas -- even better than it, really -- when you clique with someone. Social media can kill that, IMO. Correspondence is great, however.


I'm the opposite of most girls -- for the longest time, I had more male friends than female friends. Less drama, more fun. And I still find it harder to make female friends.


Have you ever had a job anywhere? Having a boss isn't so bad. I worked at a cafe during my summers and winters home from college, and it gradually helped me come out of my shell. You had to be social with the customers. I hate schmoozing and I hate small talk, but I like fun banter. It was fun. Maybe you should make getting a part-time job next summer one of your goals.


And like I said, you don't have to choose a career just yet. Take classes in everything you're interested in. Narrow it down. Go from there. You have to take it one step at a time.