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He said that I have some obsessions and compulsions but he thinks I fit more in the hysterical category. I nearly jumped off the couch!

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That's what it means :-) We react before we understand. My T explained me to me :-) using the idea that I was like a broken thermostat; everything is equally important, I don't "wait" or "shrug" about anything.

A good example for me is that everytime I get startled, I exclaim, "Ouch!" So, doesn't matter when I drop a knife in the kitchen, whether it hits my bare foot or not. My husband doesn't know whether to come running and help or to wait a bit and see if things "resolve". He usually waits; it's a bit like the shepherd who called "Wolf!" too often. I react instead of responding.

I hold my husband and others hostage to my reactions, don't think independently/individually about what he says/feels. What he says pulls my trigger and it becomes about me instead of about whatever the issue is he is raising. I can easily tell him what's wrong with his suggestions for where to go eat dinner, where I don't want to go but it's not so easy to stop and come up with where I do want to go. It's a way of putting a wall around myself, creating a buffer between other people and situations until I have time to "check them out." I'm a boat nearing a dock but I concentrate on not hitting the dock instead of docking :-)