One way to build your confidence is to make goals for yourself. They can be small goals, medium-sized goals, large goals, or all three. Just make goals, and follow through. When you fall down, or backslide, don't wallow for too long, and pick yourself up again and keep going until you meet your goals. When I was sick and getting better, one of my goals was literally just to make my bed when I got up in the morning.

Are you sad that you're not assertive, or that people take advantage?

Everybody always thought I had confidence, but I was always really good at faking it. And as the saying goes, "Fake it 'til you make it." The reason why I'm really good at faking it is because I don't want people to take advantage of me, or to **** with me, because I suck at being assertive. When people think you're confident, they're less likely to try take advantage. On the inside I was one big puddle of insecurity. I'm still insecure, but not nearly as bad as when I was 18. I've gotten better as I've gotten older. Plus you just get tired of people's ********.

As for relationships, pro tip: don't stalk their social media. We didn't have any of that, and I am so very glad. But seriously, don't do it. It's not worth it. I get obsessive too, and compulsive, and once you start, you can't stop, and then you start filling in the blanks with your own fears, and you kill it before it even has a chance to breathe. Don't do it.

You're in college, you don't need to fall in love right away. Have fun. Be friends with guys first. Don't look at them as potential boyfriends.

As for careers, it's ridiculous that anyone should be expected to know what they want to be when they grow up when they're 18. You have two years to decide what you want to major in, and then when you enter the workforce, you'll be lucky to be doing something even remotely related to your major. I kid you not. But here's a tip: definitely do an internship if you can, when you get to that point. It'll look good on your resume.

Focus on now. Have fun. I miss college. For as much trouble as I had adjusting and as much anxiety I had in social situations, I wish I could go back. Enjoy it.