Whatever you do, don't play the victim role. Move on with pride.

You can change yourself and your reactions but you can't change other people. Its futile to try.

Find some useful hobbies. Stuff that can separate you from your husband emotionally.

As for the money issue, all I can suggest is what I do in my life. Value life not things. Minimalize. Buy foods that make you healthy not taste good...go out to eat if it is truly needed. If its for socializing, why not a walk instead?

Coming from a guy BTW and I'm a Biploar I.