I am working on this and I call it giving myself room around my expereinces, my emotions.

I just failed at it last night.

Then this moring I see it in a different light. That's frequently an indicator for me, that I feel one thing immediately and then have a calmer more peaceful feeling about it later.

My immediate reaction is a kind of "OMG!" reaction and very narrow because it is about me, then later it's as if my perception broadens (lets the rest of the world in?) and I have a calmer, more secure, and more reasonable response.

Hopefully I will learn to remember this... but for now I"m getting lots and lots of practice.

It sounds dramatic and it is internally dramatic even if it isn't outwardly dramatic. So, accept what your T is saying and face it headon and see what you can learn about it. It will make you much more comfortable when you can learn how to respond rather than react.