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Originally Posted by Terabithia
I'm a needy person because I need reassurance from some one else that I am a good person, a smart person, talented.....I haven't yet found the power in my self to believe in my own innate worth. I think this is because I grew up with a dad who treated me like he hated me, and I internalized it. I have a feeling that neediness is not uncommon.
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That's right! That is how I am needy also. I need from others what I am unable to do for myself. I can not feel self worth, value, I can not comfort myself when so empty and alone. I need the reassurance as well that I can do things, that I am capable. I fear being alone and unsupported emotionally. It cause me such problems. I just feel like I am going to implode when alone and no one lifting me up. To the point of becoming suicidal, self harm, bulimic, or the need to escape and then push everyone away.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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