That is the other end of it that no one seems to see. Yea, it is common that spectrum people as kids and adults actually do not seek emotional comfort. That is not them lacking empathy, but them not able to use the empathy of others.

I think more aspies refrain from seeking emotional support than aspies refusing to give support in any kind of way. Maybe this is the real issue. Because the NT can always go to 100 other NT's and get their awww's, but the aspie can't really go anywhere. Accepting emotional support is a strange concept for many aspies, I am sure they need it but I'm not sure how to go about it.