For me... Forgiveness and reconciliation are two separate things. And like the quote said forgiveness isn't about saying what has been done wasn't wrong or wasn't important...so you don't give up your moral right to hold this against the other person. But being resentful, holding in anger, keeping a grudge has a way of hardening your heart and is emotionally exhausting. That is why I have always thought that forgiveness is about the person forgiving not the person who did wrong. I think for me it's saying... I do not like what you did... It was wrong and it hurt me... But I am not going to allow you to still have that much control over me so I can express my anger and hurt and then forgive you so I can move on in healing myself.

Reconciliation for me would involve the person acknowledging their wrong and asking for my forgiveness and then I would have to determine if it's in my own best interest to work towards regaining trust and to what level of relationship could be restored.