It's interesting to see how something like forgiving someone would end up being an internal act and not an interpersonal action between two people.

I guess I don't think in these terms because forgiveness seems to imply that I have some sort of power to render a judgement and to then be merciful or something like that. I just don't feel that way.

What I feel instead is hurt and sometimes angry. I address these feelings more than what caused them and who did the what that caused them. I first understand why I have those feelings, feel compassion for myself, and somehow from that position move toward letting go. Holding on just continues to produce harm; letting go allows healing and moving on.