Skies... I think my T was responding to my negative connotation of "being needy"... The things you describe as needy; my T would call being human or "normal". She was saying asking for and receiving things you cannot do or give to yourself is not "being needy"... "Being needy" is asking/expecting/demanding others to do for you that which you can do for yourself...

Btw " being needy" was my term.

If I had to give an example from other things my T has said... I think she would say that expecting / demanding someone else do things/be a certain way to make you happy is "being needy". My T says that the only person I am responsible to make happy is myself. She also says it not a spouses job to make the other spouse "happy".

ETA...off topic
Ironically to me somehow trying to make someone be happy in my brain is an " easier" responsibility than being honest. My T said that a spouse has a responsibility to a spouse to be honest about your feeling.