I know my T wants me to get angry with him but I have not yet been able to do so. I think this is a trust issue and the fact that I am not in touch with my anger any more than I am in touch with my tears. I know I have a lot of anger buried deep inside of me and it is so difficult to access. I think that when we cannot express our anger it does come out in other ways, like misdirected at another person, eating too much, driving like a she-devil (me LOL) yelling at the kids and so on. I have not yet reached the place in my therapy where I am working on this consciously with T. By the way, I study a pattern on a decorative rug hanging on the wall behind T and get annoyed at his bookshelf because there is a book placed in the wrong direction. ( A little OCD.....)