I say run for the hills. The thing about NPD is that MOST are never diagnosed because most would never admit that anything is wrong and submit themselves for treatment. Its sort of the catch-22 of the disorder.

Please RUN. You can't fix him and he likely won't work on it himself. My dad has a friend who married an NPD and 2 of their 3 kids are NPD. My grandfather and mother have many NPD traits (but fortunately all 3 of my siblings escaped getting the disorder ourselves). It is a b**** of a disorder, and it will destroy many areas of your life.

In my experience, narcissists can't really love another. I am still recovering from the lack of love that I will never get from my mother. And empathy? That's pretty much out the window, too.

Please, for your own sake, get out now.

If you need more advice, you can always read up on NPD on out of the fog. I'm sure you'll find a few strong opinions on the matter over there.