Hi I am a newby to this site so am taking the time to read other peoples post, I am amazed so many people are here and this is such a HUGE problem around the world, BUT I have been uneducated for 35 years and I truly am at a place where I need to make myself Number 1 and whole again... this is going to take time and at 54 it dosnt leave much space for encountering a so called normal loving equal relationship, so be wise in what you choose for yourself, life is so short and each day, week, month & year is so precious... don't let yourself be robbed of love, joy, happiness, empathy, encouragement, support and respect, if your loved one doesn't make you feel WHOLE... let go, step back and ask YOURSELF do I sacrifice my self worth for someone that cannot SEE me ... goodluck on your journey... please keep reading posts on PC and hopefully the insight of others will be liberating for you... now just breathe