. But the other kind of narcissist is a child that also never developed past the stage of "the world revolves around me", because they were neglected and even abandoned and they tend to have a hard time because they really never did learn to empathize and they really do spend the rest of their life in a very selfish state of mind where other people are just objects they need to conquer and be better than somehow. So, in their world if a child doesn't please them or fit into what they think has to fit into their needs and ideal of whatever presentation is important to them, yes,

that child will be treated like he/she is never good enough or just burdensome and unacceptable.

However, they do not understand or see this about themselves. They genuinely do not "know" how to be caring/nurturing/comforting in a way that "see's the other person or child emotionally or empathetically". Instead, a child is "there to please "them" and they send this message to their children constantly. I have watched them do this where, for example, at a horse show they tell the child that they expect that child to win because after all that is what they are paying for. It is not in their vocabulary to tell a child to "go enjoy the competition and just learn". They do not know "how" to appreciate the learning and the effort at all when it comes to the child, instead it's a do it or "you are a failure" and are a disappointment because "My" child did not shine above all others. It is actually (for me anyway) very upsetting to watch and see the child competing not really to learn and embrace that moment, but to supply the parent with their "narcissistic high".


OE