The problem is not that you asked it is that you didn't listen to the answer.

No means no.

I understand that sometimes people do not always mean it but it is not your place to assume they don't.

In these situations it is always best to assume they mean it. If they don't they will no doubt approach you.

I've found some of the posts here a touch close to victim blaming. He said NO people.

I don't think OP meant anything malicious by what happened and I'm sure it was an honest mistake but I can't blame him for his reaction.

The point now is to accept you made a mistake and learn from it.

NB: I find myself a touch triggered by this post so my reaction is probably more emotionally charged than I like but I've done my best to keep it civil.

While I do not mean to make the OP feel bad it also feels like some of you are making him out to be a bad person for not giving in.