It's not like he left the relationship, he left the house at night to get some sleep. In fewer words then you would have liked him to say, he did set boundaries. "no," is a pretty solid statement. Your statement, "boundaries are only boundaries when clearly stated, otherwise it's resentment", was generalized and false, healing4me. I've had more serious posts written up and erased because I'm just trying to stay out of it but this post is triggering for me as well. I am not coming anywhere close to being angry at CosmicRose, she made a mistake and acknowledged it, which is good and its been clarified that the guy probably got frustrated and left, to make any assumptions about why he did it in the way it's being done or to coddle the OP while at the same time insulting the man is sexist and victim blaming. I didn't want to post on here as OP's post should not be the place for a whole argument on gender roles but there are enough people here perpetuating the problem out of sheer ignorance I felt compelled to say something. Feel free to respond but I will not as I'm leaving this argument to take care of myself, but its pretty blatantly obvious that mistakes were made and OP should not be held 100 percent responsible but the man did nothing wrong and a significant amount of sexist issues have been placed on this man's head from little knowledge of him at all.