Hi BeteNoire, sorry you have been treated so badly and so misunderstood. I believe you, I believe you have been blamed unfairly and have also gone unheard and have experienced that myself so I know how painful it can be.

Having a therapist that is "respectful and caring" who can sit and listen to your history would be very "healing" for you. When someone struggles with BPD they typically have a history of emotional abuse and really struggle with forming "healthy attachments" because they never had experienced a healthy trust in a parent that was supposed to provide that.