A therapist who says it's better to work on thinking and not talk about feelings....hm...he seems to be in some sort of feeling-denial himself....I'd refer him to a shrink myself

Erinbear, I think you are practicing good self-care in that you are terminating treatment with this therapist and looking for one who can really 'hear' you.

A few months ago I was seeing a t who to the best of my knowledge was well-versed in psychodynamic theory and she even said she'd be willing to work with me psychodynamically. Well, after a few sessions I said to her that although she has agreed to 'do' psychodynamic therapy with me I cannot help but notice her heavy use of cognitive-behavioral techniques. She agreed that she had thought she could provide the psychodynamic therapy but that yes indeed cbt is her preferred model of treatment and it is quite obvious that cbt rules in our sessions. I told her nice good-bye and we parted ways. BTW I am now working with a t who is very obviously doing psychodynamic work with me.

Take gentle care,