Des,

I know that forgiveness is important for many survivors and I respect that. And I rejoice for those who find healing in forgiveness. And I really wish you well on your journey and hope that it brings you peace and healing.

For me, I've tried. I can't. Not now. I have heal without forgiving them. Those who raped me have never come to me for forgiveness. Truthfully, I hope they never do. If they do, I guess I'll have to confront forgiveness then. But they were really, really brutal and showed me no mercy. That's where I get stuck.

I admire your capacity to reach for forgiveness. Maybe one day I will be able too.

mtd