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Originally Posted by Clara22
For example, telling other people they know I am depressed, telling details about my mental health issues to other people (some of them I know, some of them I do not know). I must say that in our culture privacy is not valued very much, although it is changing now. But I must say also that I am very discreet and that I have said I don't like them to discuss about my health with other people. They do it anyway. I understand they do it anyway because here people open their mouths too much. Indeed, I have met back with some old friends that want to help but I am terrified by the level of details about their own friends they tell me in casual conversations. It is just an habit. I have very little interest in unknown people lives and I feel embarrassed listening to these comments. But then I think, I being too picky, all in all, these friends of mine want to be helpful. Also, they make insensitive comments or are patronizing sometimes. This is something common here but as I was in the US in the last ten years ( then I came back to my country ) I guess I am having a hard time adapting to these characteristics. Of course, some people are more sophisticated here.
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I can totally understand that -- I wouldn't want people I am not friends with knowing information about me if it is not coming directly from me. People can get details wrong, give their own interpretations of things, and skew things according to how they see them.
Is it your friends who are making insensitive comments and being patronizing, or your friends' friends?
Where do you live?