There is a lot. Starting with being abandoned at birth ("dad" adopted me), not being protected from his wife, and then various ongoing abuse until I was 19.
There followed a few years of self-destructive beahaviour that my partner did his best to help me with.
So really I have only really been in recovery for a couple of years (I'm 24) and now I am watching my baby sister sliding down the same rabbit hole of self-abuse, knowing that no matter how hard I try, there is only so much I can help.
I also met my mother a few months ago and in the next week I have to tell her why I won't talk to her.
So I'm not exactly able to "let it go" yet.