I've already discussed this situation with my T, but she wasn't able to give me any helpful advice. I have a co-worker/friend who has recently become overly clingy and won't respect my boundaries no matter how many times I have laid them out for her. While she has not explicitly said that said that she has a crush on me, that is what it seems like to me. Her behavior towards me is making me very uncomfortable and has crossed my physical boundaries to the point where I feel unsafe. For several weeks now, I have told her, point blank, "Please do not touch me in any way. It makes me uncomfortable and I do not like it." Despite that, every time she sees me, she hugs me/touches me/ tries to cuddle me. Every time, I flinch, push her off, and say: "No. Remember, I asked you not to touch me. I do not like it. Please stop." The last time I saw her I was even so honest with her that I told her it has begun giving me nightmares. I keep dreaming that someone is on top of me and won't get off and I wake up gasping for air. I have also told her about having been the victim of unwanted touching in the past, which I have gone to therapy for. I truly cannot understand how or why she cannot understand or respect my "no touch" boundary. The last time I saw her, a few days ago, she and I were sitting next to one another in chairs in a public place. She lunged over, threw her arm directly across my chest, pulled me into her body, and attempted to full body cuddle me. I said: "no! stop! let me go!" and she refused to let go. I had to shake her off, while she said: "gee! You're worse than my husband!" (Yes, she is married to a man but says that she is not 100% heterosexual). She has also done weird things like walking in on me when I was in a dressing room and told me I had an "amazing body." She also just joined a group that I am a core member of for the sole reason that I am in it and now I am stuck with having to see her there. I also have to see her at meetings and other work events, and we have several friends in common, so I can't simply "never see her again." It just isn't possible.

I have decided to stop hanging out with her one-on-one but am unsure how best to communicate that to her. The last time I "confronted" her she started sobbing, fell to the ground in despair, made a HUGE scene, and told me that I had basically broken her heart. She is clearly very depressed and emotionally fragile and I'm not sure what she will when do I tell her I can't spend time with her 1:1. In her mind, I am her best friend-- even though I only consider her a a casual friend. I don't know how to get myself out of being her friend without making having to interact at work unbearable. I have tried to just be "busy" a lot but when I don't respond to her, she starts crazy texting me and asking if I am in the hospital or dead. The problem isn't that I don't know how to express myself or handle confrontation-- the problem is that I don't know how to do this while still maintaining the peace at work. She has latched on to other people at work before and, when they cut her off, she goes around telling everyone they are the devil and they have wronged her and makes their lives miserable. I don't want to be in that situation. But, at the same time, now that I feel physically unsafe around her, I have to do something. I can't even get her to stop touching me AT work! I'm afraid she is going to touch me in a meeting and then I'm going to say "don't touch me" and cause a scene-- and I'M going to look like the crazy one! How do I handle this?