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Old Sep 15, 2014, 08:51 PM
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Originally Posted by HazelGirl View Post
I think that sometimes you need to realize that your own well-being is more important than your career.
I'm willing to stand up for myself, assert my boundaries, and end the friendship. But I'm not willing to throw in the towel on a group I've spent 2 years building from the ground up, ruin my chances at tenure, or ruin the possibility of being hired at a better University (which would also get me away from her!) I've worked SO HARD to be a professor by 29; I'm not willing to ruin all of that because someone is bothering me. If it were a matter of life or death or something, yes, that would come before my career. But I won't let this woman ruin my career and I don't think just "stepping away" is the best way to stand up for myself.
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