whoa.....big questions.....I think true schizoids don't think about either. they would rather not deal with the intricacies that come with dealing with other people. but that is only part of being schizoid. you can meet other criteria and not that one and still be schizoid. I have schizoid traits, id rather be alone, I don't know that I am capable of love, I had a hard time developing a relationship with my own children, but I do get crushes. I wish that I could have relationships with people but I don't know how. it is incomprehensible to me. I feel incapable. it doesn't seem worth the effort. im happy alone. I don't even understand why people complain about being alone. so I hope this helps answer your questions some. take care...