im, afraid i don't have much advice for you. it sounds like you are doing all you can. i am glad to see that you refuse to be manipulated by him, i see so many parents in this situation who cave under the pressure and let their teen run the show. keep up the good work. i imagine that you have exhausted all the med options by now and doing the best that can be done there. unfortunately with aspergers, he does not always realize that his behaviors are inappropriate. you need to find a way to take more time out for you. find a way to distress so you can handle the extra stress of dealing with him.