Alex, I am sure your T has been "rejected" by clients before. Sometimes after a session (sometimes a long time after), I realize I have rejected my T. But didn't even know I was doing this. And I'm kind of horrified because I love him so much (in the best, non-obsessed sense of the word). And didn't mean to do that. But he understands. And is there the next time and there are new opportunities to accept or reject.

I do not believe a T needs to maintain an artifical "distance" in order to be non-judgemental. My T and I are very close, yet each time I experience his unconditional acceptance, no matter what I say. And there are times I have not wanted to share things because I thought he would think I am a terrible person, but it wasn' t true. He did accept.

Alex, give your guy a chance. He sounds great.