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Old Sep 16, 2014, 02:05 AM
Depressed-Fiance Depressed-Fiance is offline
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Hi Travellinglady & thanks for your nice reply.

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Is your girlfriend mentally ill? Why would she act the way she did and try to choke you?
I'm not sure if she's mentally ill or suffers from maybe Bipolar Disorder/Borderline Personality Disorder/Sociopath but I do know that her father said that in the past she has suffered from Depression & had an 'episode' - I don't know what kind of episode but that's what he said.

If it's any help, she is a bit bossy, moody, sulky & sometimes mildly controlling.

She says that she only choked me so that I would stay & listen to her. I think that is out of line because she could have jus asked me to stay and listen again rather than resort to violence.

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I can understand your wanting to defend yourself, especially if you are being choked. I think most folks would have fought back. However, I am very concerned about your relationship getting physical. Anything like that will get worse after marriage, I think.
You're right, I think if it is left 'untreated' then it could get worse and especially it begs belief if we had children.....what would she do to them?

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I do suggest the two of you go into some pre-marriage counseling. I hope your girlfriend will also get some personal counseling.
I am more than happy to get some counselling but I think getting her to go would be a hard task. I suppose you have to want the help to go in the first place but she is a very stubborn girl.

I'm 26yrs old & she's 23 by the way.

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Please try not to worry about what happened. I think the thing to be concerned about is the future. Okay?
Ok, no problem.
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anon20141119, Travelinglady