Wanted to add more to this discussion. Because talking about it, with others, is as important as reaching out, only during the tough times.

My nine year old has been a bear. His grade in class, doesn't get lunch until 1:30. He's refused breakfast, even to grab a cold cereal container for noon time. He only wants what I don't have to give, until next week...cheese its. When he gets hungry, he's unable to rationalize. I have graham crackers, gold fish, and saltines, but no. His stubbornness creates anger when he gets home. Catch 22 sometimes.

Sometimes, all we can do, is know where it's coming from. Even if our patience wears very thin. He was snippy with his younger brother over the cookies I'd made, then antagonistic with older brother, which disrupted my helping youngest with home work.

He's developmentally delayed, to boot.

There's studies going on now about how trauma affects neurological aspects of our brain. Is her pediatrician working with her school to get extra one on one support while she is there? My friend fought for her daughter to get an individual education plan, her daughter witnessed a murder, and has an inflexible mentality to boot. The more resources the better. You deserve as much help as possible. Weekly therapy is only part of the puzzle.