I am trying to raise awareness, sometimes I ask why they say that or I tell why I think differently. For example, under the cover of helpfulness some people hide some resentment. Somehow, they like certain order of things where you are the one that is helpless and they are the one who save others. Taking care of others is exaggerated and somehow they like to show off they help others as much as they can. They do not like when you say no to some of their offers or do not follow their advice. Some people are not in that way all the time, and have other very positive personality traits in addition to this one that I don't like.It is very profound but if you tell them an unsolicited interpretation of their behavior you are being aggressive, as well. For some people, it is lack of sophistication, too. Here, very rarely people will refuse your advice and tell you that they did not ask for advice first place. We are not as individualistic or assertive as other cultures, although things are changing. Here people are patronizing by default anyway. And going back to these friends, they are not bad people, they try to help all in all. I guess I am more irritable now so many things bother me. I used to accept people's ways in an easier mood before