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Originally Posted by michelle666
You two are getting married someday so I would advise in your own time trying to listen to her- cuddling her if she will let you- trying to get her to open up- Do try counselling if this doesn't work.
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That is a good approach to take, I will give that a try & see how I get on.
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Originally Posted by michelle666
But beware she may not want to open up whatever is bothering her to someone else. Just try and be there for her as best you can- she is obviously going through something and snapped at the wrong person.
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I am not going to force her, it will have to come naturally from her & however long that takes, that's how long I'll wait.
I think she is probably in denial at the moment hence why she hasn't apologised to me or even acknowledged that she is in the wrong.
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Originally Posted by hvert
Please, please be careful. It doesn't matter if you were right or wrong when the police show up.
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I will be careful, but I do believe this was a complete one-off from her this act of violence.
Can I ask what you mean when you say it doesn't matter if I'm right or wrong when the Police turn up? Who said anyone was getting them involved at this point?
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Originally Posted by hvert
This relationship does not sound safe. You should not have to live in fear of being physically attacked or with the threat of a criminal record hanging over your head because you chose to defend yourself.
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It has certainly changed how I view her now & I would always be probably quite wary of her just incase she had a repeat outburst.
I'm just worried that because her nose was bloodied & she had more 'damage' to her than I did (although I did have bruises all round my neck for days afterwards which I did take date stamped photos of) that the Police will arrest me, even though I believe I'm more the victim?
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Originally Posted by hvert
Staying with this woman could have horrible consequences.
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Doesn't bear thinking about.
